Though our need to connect is innate, many of us frequently feel alone. Loneliness is the state of distress or discomfort that results when one feels a gap between one’s desires for social connection and actual experiences of it. Even some people who are surrounded by others throughout the day or married for long may still experience a deep and pervasive loneliness. Research suggests that loneliness poses serious threats to well-being as well as long-term physical health.
According to research presented at the American Psychological Association annual conference in 2019, over 42 million Americans over the age of 45 suffer from chronic loneliness
In February 24th, Japan announced setting up a ministry of loneliness, following the UK example, brings much-needed focus to mental health. Japan, though, is not the first economy to appoint a loneliness minister, Britain did it in 2018.
In India, despite government efforts, mental health issues remain a stigma. Reporting related to mental health issues in India is limited. Perhaps, the government, following the Japanese example, can think of a ministry of loneliness.
Understanding the causes:
- feeling of detachment- like fear of judgment, shame, traumatic experiences, conflicts with loved ones, growing apart in relationships.
- unable to establish or strengthen bond (emotionally/psychologically) with family and friends
- unavailability of loved ones
- being abused and rejected by others.
- continuous humiliation and insulting attitude from family
- feeling of ‘ misfit’ among friends and family.
- broken heart or missing someone
- change schools or jobs
- work from home
- move to a new city
- end of any relationship
- are living alone for the first time
Outcomes /Symptoms:
If you’re lonely, you may feel sad, empty, or as if you’re lacking something important when you spend time by yourself. Chronic loneliness can also involve the following symptoms:
- persistent Sadness
- lack of connect
- decreased energy
- feeling foggy or unable to focus
- Lack or interrupted sleep, or other sleep issues
- decreased appetite
- feelings of self-doubt, hopelessness, or worthlessness
- a tendency to get sick frequently
- body aches and pains
- feelings of anxiousness or restlessness
- increased shopping
- Substance or other additions
- increased desire to binge-watch shows or movies
- cravings for physical warmth, such as hot drinks, baths, or cozy clothes and blankets
Many health surveys especially in the US had found evidence to link loneliness to increased risk for:
- Chronic illness
- High cholesterol
- Emotional distress
- Diabetes
- Depression
Tips to overcome Loneliness:
It’s possible a few lifestyle changes could help you feel less lonely.
- stay in touch with loved ones
- volunteer or participate in community events
- try a new hobby
- get out of the house
- expect the best. Lonely people often expect rejection, so instead focus on positive thoughts.
- recognize that loneliness is a sign that something needs to change.
- understand the effects of loneliness on your life. There are physical and mental repercussions for loneliness.
Psychological Approaches:
There is early evidence that cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), mindfulness and positive psychology can reduce loneliness in later life. These techniques help identify the automatic negative thoughts and feelings which can become overwhelming over time and influence behaviour and helps to challenge these patterns and replace them with more manageable and positive ways of responding.
Loneliness isn’t a mental health condition with a clear recommended treatment, so you might wonder how to deal with it. Overcoming loneliness can seem like a real challenge, especially if you’re shy, introverted, or find it difficult to meet new people. It may take some time, but it’s very possible to build new relationships or deepen existing connections in your life.
If you aren’t sure what you can do to feel less lonely, consider reaching out to a therapist who can offer help and support.
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